Anyone who seeks romance through a dating site such as Jump4Love will be genuinely shocked and disappointed to find that so many of the girls are actually rewarded for writing or chatting to them or that many of these girls are using fake profiles to communicate. But, I have covered my personal experience and the wider issues elsewhere in this blog. However, there is another side to this story and that is the ‘men’ that visit these sites for a cheap thrill, or worst still, treat the girls like they are a piece of meat. I hold the same level of contempt, if not more, for these perverts who treat these girls like whores or worse. One girl who is known to me and I will refer to as “The Victim” told me of one such man and, whilst I can’t confirm everything she has told me, I have seen two emails written by this man and I have had independent verification that this man had something of a reputation amongst the girls for his lewd and reprehensible behaviour.

I am aware of this man’s identity, or at least the one he uses on Jump4Love, but I will not reveal it here…not because I have any sympathy for this sack of shit, but because if he were a member of my family I would feel only immense shame. I will refer to him using the acronym “SOS” (Sack of Shit).

As I understand it, SOS is a failed, retired or unemployed “academic” living in Kent, a county just south of London. Although he claims to be 40 years old, I have seen a photo that SOS uses in his profile and, this weasel like scroat has either had a very hard life or he is much closer to 60! Although I have no evidence to back up this particular theory, I do have a vision of a man living off state benefits, in a dirty bedsit with only a computer, his right hand and the internet for company. I wonder also if he is not your archetypal misogynist!

According to The Victim, SOS had been writing to her for more than 18 months and claimed that he loved her and wanted to marry her. In spite of this she told me that SOS is a prolific writer who persistently pressured her to become a prostitute in her home town so that she could earn the money to pay for her passage to the UK. According to the account of The Victim, SOS told her that once she arrived in the UK, she could live with him and he would get her a job in a local club where she could continue to work as a prostitute and they could share the income. At the risk of bursting the bubble of SOS, I know for a fact that The Victim was not (and is not) a prostitute. According to her account, SOS would regularly interrogate her and she would feel obliged to satisfy his sick sexual fantasies by creating stories and telling him what he wanted to hear. I feel sure this is how the creep got his sexual excitement!

The Victim variously described SOS to me as “completely sick” and a “pervert”. Based on what she told me, I would not argue with that assessment. I also got the impression that she was more than a little intimidated by him given she felt that he was stalking her. She told me that he was completely obsessed and he just wouldn’t leave her alone. I spoke to another girl that worked with The Victim on Jump4Love and she independently verified that SOS had something of a reputation amongst the girls as being a complete pervert. Whilst this girl was not a friend of The Victim, she also confirmed to me that The Victim was certainly not a prostitute…and went on to explain that girls were often subjected to such treatment from men they met or communicated with through the dating site Jump4Love and even though the girls were often disgusted, it was considered an inevitable if disagreeable part of the job. She also explained to me that this was one reason why girls that did have honest or serious intentions quickly left the site once they encountered such perverts, leaving only those that had yet to learn from experience and those that were willing to accept this treatment in return for lucrative commissions. Of course, this left me wondering how proactive Jump4Love are, because they claim to monitor communications and yet, such behaviour appears to be widespread, rather than random events. The Victim informed me that she had curtailed all forms of communication with SOS in the early part of last year….and rightly so!

I can’t say whether SOS is a sick fantasist or if he was serious in his intent, but irrespective, I am not sure that UK law distinguishes between such vagaries. I am no expert in law, but as I understand it based on the following, to encourage a girl to enter prostitution, no matter where she lives, is a criminal offence.

Causing, Inciting and Controlling Prostitution for Gain
Causing or inciting prostitution for gain: Section 52 Sexual Offences Act 2003

This offence came into force on 1 May 2004.

Under section 52(1) a person commits an offence if:
a) he intentionally causes or incites another person to become a prostitute in any part of the world, and
b) he does so for or in the expectation of gain for himself or third party.

“In any part of the world” means that section 52 is contravened when a person is caused or incited in England, Wales or Northern Ireland to become a prostitute either in that jurisdiction or elsewhere in the UK or overseas.

In addition, based on what The Victim told me, there may even be an argument for conspiracy to traffic; given it is patently obvious that no work permit would be issued to a girl for the purpose of sexual exploitation or prostitution. If everything that I have been told by The Victim is true, then SOS would be wise to consider his position very carefully, because anyone, not just The Victim can report such matters to the Police. I detest, with a true passion, specimens like SOS, because they assume that everyone that visits the same places as they do, must be like them…and because they use a ‘mirror like’ image of themselves to judge others. It is little wonder that some girls have such a poor opinion of men that visit these dating sites where normal men are obliged to coexist with sick bastards like SOS who dare not ply their sick fantasies in their own countries for fear of persecution or prosecution.

Men like SOS will never find a partner, other than sort that cannot distinguish between good and bad, such as his right hand. In my view and based on what I have been told SOS is a scroat, a nonce and needs to spend some time at Her Majesty’s Pleasure where he can learn what it is like to become someone’s bitch!

If “you are judged by the company you keep” then I am grateful that through my experience and discoveries I have been able to extricate myself from this community. But any men with legitimate and sincere intentions need to be aware that men like SOSare active on Jump4Love and, for all intents and purposes, appear to remain unhindered by their actions, words or deeds…therefore this is the company you will be keeping. Girls continue to be recruited, many of whom will be paid by the local agencies that engage them for each letter and chat session…so apart from having to be in the same company as men like SOS, you will spend most of your time (and money) trying to discover if the girl you are communicating with is honest, sincere and genuine, or just in it for the money. If you want this, then go ahead, if not, then look elsewhere. Unless, or until Jump4Love get their act together, they should not be rewarded with your custom, and no matter how many blogs Jump4Love set up to drown out my voice, I will continue to warn anyone willing to conduct a little research before they part with their money.